TWO WAYS TO DEAL WITH A PROBLEM:
(1) Start with the problem and flesh it out. Describe it in full detail and enlist others to commiserate with the hurt and pain. Feel safe in a familiar environment.
(2) Start with the answer and steer clear of any focus on the issues or concomitant suffering. Courageously step into an entirely different dimension.
Obviously they’re entirely incompatible. In #1 what is being sought is compassion, sharing the grief and heartache as an experience in itself.
In #2 what is being sought is an awakening to a Consciousness that admits of no pain, sorrow, regret, but only perfection, omnipresence, infinity.
Clearly #1 and #2 cannot be mixed.